You must look good to get girls. This is a true statement, though one I myself rebelled against for a long, long time. And perhaps I was proof that it wasn’t true - I’d put up 50 lays before I ever started to employ and sense of fashion or style, and I was out of shape as often as not.
Why do you need to look good to get laid? The answer is simple - it’s a reflection on your character, and what internally drives you. I am now, completely and totally certain that any money you invest reasonably into looking better will more than come back to you. The returns on dressing better - even in just a professional context - are immense. Not to mention your social life.
One thing you’ll notice, is that the vast majority of guys getting some look good. They’re not “good looking” but they look good. Take Neil for example.
Neil’s often cited as another example of why you don’t need to be great looking to get laid. 5′6, balding, whatever. The thing is - Neil looks good. He’s not “clasically good looking”, but he looks good. Elegant, classy, well-groomed.
The value in looking good is not simply that you look good - althought there’s something to that.
The real value comes from your character. If you’re poorly dressed, in poor shape, what does that say about you? Does it say you care about yourself? Does it say you like to enjoy life? Does it say you matter to yourself, and to others?
And that’s when it hit me - Even with my terrible dress, and mediocre grooming, I “looked good” even years ago before I really got it together. Not as good as I could, but every time I’d gotten a girl, I’d looked good.
Funny, it was a lot more random back then. If I’d win a competition, I’d be beaming and I’d get some. And it would spiral - if a girl got interested in me, a lot of other girls would follow suit.
So some quick tips to start looking good:
*Shoulders back and broad. Even as you read this, push your shoulders back and out.
*Chest in, stomach out. Follows naturally after your shoulders are back and broad.
*Chin up - Your nose should actually be pointed upwards a bit.
*Smile!
Those are the first four pieces of advice I can give you. The next few will take a bit longer to start implementing:
*Wear your clothes a lot smaller. Very, very, very, very few people can justify wearing an American sized-large. I’m almost six foot tall, 170 lbs., and my favorite shirt is an extra-small. I usually wear smalls, and very, very rarely medium.
*Get your teeth white - Crest Whitening Strips will be the best $40 you’ve ever spent. Whitening tooth paste and floss go a long way too. Also, if you don’t really like toothpaste (who does?) think about picking up the new vanilla-flavored toothpastes coming out. They making brushing your teeth feel like eating candy. “Glide” floss also tastes and feels 3,000 times better than that horrible green stringy shit we grew up with.
And more:
*If you’re on a budget or just don’t like spending ridiculous amounts on clothes, flip through GQ, Cargo, etc., whenever they come out. Then look for stuff that looks like what you see. It takes about six months to a year to get a really good eye for it, but once you do you can walk into TJ Max and put an outfit together that looks good for $50-100 tops.
*It’s better to have one killer outfit than six mediocre ones. Remember this.
*You will, subconsciously, base items around your watch. Whatever watch you get, you will buy clothes to match. Strange but true. Most watches from the mid to high end become all pretty decent. On the low end, allow to recommend Fossil, Guess, Diesel, and Skagen.
And yet more:
*Sharp touches go a long way. Matching your shoes/belt/watch might seem to be silly, and other people won’t really notice. But you’ll look “put together” for some reason. The time it takes you to do that might let you meet one more quality girl a year, or get you one more promotion every five years. Over the course of your life, that’s dozens of lovers and potentially hundreds of thousands of dollars. And in fact, the higher you are, the more these small edges will stack up for you.
*Getting a good haircut is well worth it. I remember having a friend who was an attorney. He got his hair done weekly, to the tune of $50 a visit. I said to him that he’s crazy! He said to me, “Sebastian, if I get one extra client a year because I get my hair done, it evens out.” And that still doesn’t factor the benefit to his social life - he got laid a lot, by the way.
*Want long hair? Go into a nice place and say, “I’m going to grow my hair long. Can you give me a base cut that will look good as it grows in?” It’s that simple. And if your hair starts to irritate you, just tough it out for a couple weeks. It gets better.
*If you have a beard, trim that sucker. Do something with it. Electric razors give you the most control.
*Get interesting socks.
When you take time and groom yourself well, you’re saying that you care about how you look, you’re ambitious, and you go after things. This is very valuable to women, and also in your professional life. When I teach, my goal is not to have guys just get laid more - but to communicate better, and I especially love when people get more professional success.
Looking good isn’t about pleasing others. It’s about showing you take care of yourself, care about yourself, are ambitious and like to feel good.
Lots of good little ways to look a bit better. Add your own to this thread.
-S