Hey guys, quick one today. In fact, that’s appropriate, since this post is about doing something quickly; namely, getting a girl’s number.

Give this a try: roll up and open with Genuine Interest (”going direct” for all y’all pickup kids), then after telling her she’s cute or stunning or whatever, say, “I really have to run, but I’m gonna take a gamble that you’re cool too [get her number].” This is like a 30-second number-grab, and it works. If you don’t believe in the glory of the quick grab, do this right and it’ll expand your reality.

I think the power in this is that, by saying that you’ll gamble that she’s cool, you’re indicating that you demand certain standards in the women you see. It’s like giving her an IOU for screening… like, “I don’t have time to screen you right now, but it does matter to me that the girls I see are cool. I’ll assume you qualify for the moment, since I’m in a hurry. I’ll find out for real when we get together.” And it does it in a friendly, subtle, non-playerish way, instead of doing it like, “We can hang out IF you’re cool” or whatever.

When I do that 30-second number-grab, I usually keep the plans themselves somewhat nebulous - more “getting a drink sometime” than specific times and places. This might be me calibrating to the suddenness of the grab and not wanting to scare her off with specific plans before we’ve even chatted, or it might just be me using poor form. Not sure. I’ll experiment with being more specific on the 30-second number-grab and report back.

Plusses and Minuses of the Quick Number-Grab

The big minus to the 30-second grab that I can see is that the woman doesn’t get invested in the interaction; she simply doesn’t have time. Investment is a powerful attraction builder, and without it she’s more likely to flake. Even if she thought you were attractive, she might be less willing to push through obstacles, like other plans or general laziness, to see you - she didn’t put in a lot of work to get things rolling with you, so the thought of losing you doesn’t bug her too much.

The obvious plus is that you can do this when you’re in a hurry. Another one is that you literally don’t give yourself time to screw up. That sounds pessimistic, but it isn’t really. I’ve found that most people, if you show them one really cool aspect of yourself and then bail before they see anything else, tend to fill in the blanks with equally cool stuff. It’s like they take the one thing they know about you and flesh out the rest of you in their mind, at the coolness level of whatever glimpse of you they got. You can use that to your advantage here. With the quick number grab, make a powerful, attractive impression, then get outta there. She’ll fill in the blanks in a favorable way.

Like the last post, this is my rough idea and not fully vetted theApproach tech from Sebastian. Still, bearing that in mind, give this a try and let me know what you think.

Cheers,
Clark