Hey guys,

Here’s the situation: a woman’s leaving your place after the two of you have had sex for the first time… not too long after meeting each other. She’s gathered up her clothes and gotten dressed, the cab’s waiting outside, and she’s halfway out the door. You’re still under the covers, hands behind your head and feeling good, basking in that languid, post-coital contentment.

Maybe you see relationship potential here, or maybe you’re not on the monogamy market right now. Either way, you like this woman and want to see her again. You don’t want her to file you in the “one-night stand” category, but you’d rather not say something weak and played-out like “I’ll call you, ok?” or “Hey, let’s definitely hang out again soon.”

Here’s something I’ve said to let her know I care without getting cheesy, tapping bad precedent (e.g., “I’ll call you!”), or overstating my intentions. As she’s heading out the door, say:

“Hey, text me to let me know you got home ok.”

Of course, you could just not say anything or play it aloof or whatever, but I’m not really a fan of that. It might actually generate some intrigue and attraction, but it does that by tapping insecurities and vulnerabilities. I don’t like exploiting negative emotions to build attraction, and anyway, I want a woman to associate positive emotions with me, not negative ones. I think it makes for better, more enjoyable long-term connections.

So there you go. “Hey, text me to let me know you got home ok.” It’s just a normal thing to say, but that’s what most of this social-skills stuff is, really. The trick is in saying the right normal things at the right times. Anyway, try it out – it makes her feel good to hear it, which makes you feel good to say it. Plus, it’s just nice.

A quick disclaimer: this is my tech, not Sebastian’s. I said it on instinct a little while ago, it’s worked well, and I thought I’d share it with y’all. But it’s not fully vetted theApproach tech courtesy of Sebastian Drake. Just a heads up. Still, give it a whirl and see how it goes.

Cheers,
Clark