Sebastian,

All i want is to share mindsets,beliefs and inner game stuff. I thrive on that. My mind controls my body, my body controls my actions. Its the mindset and internal beliefs , along with structured game and a way to project your internal self is what brings success. I ask, what are your core beliefs Sebastian? Your core internal workings, what goes through ur mind upon approach? during the initial pick up? what are your mindsets and beliefs about your self and PU?

Your input would be warmly welcomed, and thanks.

God bless and stay healthy =)
Peace out for now
-M

What a lovely question - I believe it was Aristotle who said, “The unexamined life is not worth living” - The background of my laptop has a beautiful picture of Manhattan, with the following words written in white across the bottom:

“Elevate my friends - Strive for balance in my life - Better the world every single day - Trend upwards.”

What that all means:

Elevate my friends: By this, I don’t just mean my “inner-circle”; I mean anyone who is cooperative and a decent person. Elevate everyone who works with you and helps you better the world. Of course, treat close friends exceptionally well - give them the world.

Strive for balance in my life: While it’s hard, I don’t believe in selling out mental, physical, emotional, or spiritual health for one or the other. No matter how busy, make time for books, writing, good people, and exercise.

Better the world every single day: I look constantly for opportunities do small good things - it gets noticed. I make a point to make real eye contact and greet anyone I buy things from, grocery clerks, bagel servers, etc. These people are largely ignored despite interacts with hundreds per day - a “how’s the day treating you?” and real eye contact goes a long, long way. Hand your cell phone to someone fighting to get a payphone working if you’re going to be standing there a moment.

Trend upwards: So many people want what they want, right now, and if they don’t get it - well, they’ll, they’ll… stop and watch TV because they’re frustrated? Success doesn’t happen immediately in a lot of things, so I try to make incremental improvement all the time. If you go in the right direction for long enough, you’ll get there.

For what I advocate focusing on during a Pickup, check out “Lo-Tech Solutions for Smart People”. It’s got a few points in it, but definitely check out the details about what to think about when out in field under “Focus”.

Beyond that, one thing I really recommend everyone does for their inner-game is go out into the world sometime and really size up the men around you. The reason most people are insecure is because they compare themselves to their “ideal self” - thinking, “I could do more, I could be more, I should go the gym more, I should’ve gotten better grades, I should be making more money, I wish I was more productive…” and so on. But the thing is, you’re not competing with your ideal self. Go look at the guys around at the mall, or the average bar or club. How many of them, really, would a given woman choose over you?

Other things I believe about women and people -

A woman’s life is better for having me in it.

Women have to meet my standards.

There’s many stars in the sky, and we have different people who are right for us at different times in our life. Nothing is permanent. Relationships aren’t “lost” when they’re over; they’re concluded, and you’ve both had lessons to learn and grow from.

There’s many right people for any one person throughout their lives.

Women like being around and support men who are masculine and take what they want from the world. Political correctness aside, women like to feel like women.

Not everyone is going to like what you do at any given time - and it doesn’t matter. The greatest of all-time at anything had people who disliked or detracted from them. That’s okay, because I’ll get enough of the kind of people I want in my life, in it.

A few other points about me, for those who are curious: I have a strong belief in God and doing good things for the world. I love philosophy and enjoy art. Curious like a kid. Stack of books at my place. Lift weights. Free market economist - socially liberal, fiscally conservative. Live and let live, and never impose my beliefs unsolicited, but always willing to speak if people are interested. Feel best when I’m making a difference doing something I believe in.

Thanks for writing in, and best,

Sebastian

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