I came across structured natural game and was really intrigued. What is your approach on the dating aspect?

-Derrick, San Francisco, CA

A few key things for dating:

First, remember that memory isn’t linear - you get to know a person better not by spending more time with them doing the same things, but by having new experiences with them. What that means, is you’ll want to do multiple activities each time you hang out with a girl.

Now remember, you want to build VAC at all times: Value, Attainability, and Compliance. If she’s coming out with you, your value and attainability are usually in decent shape, and so let’s start by building compliance - A good one is inviting her to run errands with you, and we’ll go grab tea afterwards.

Three Rules of Dating: Cheap, Convenient, Conversation. You want your dates to be -
Cheap: Inexpensive dates are lower pressure, and force you to be more creative and have more fun. There won’t be pressure about who pays: If you want her to pay for dates, it’s easier to start smaller.

Convenient: For you, that is.
Conversation: The date should be conducive to conversation. Dates that give you things to talk about - museums, galleries, windowshopping - are a bonus, but at least make sure it isn’t a conversation-stifler (like a dinner date where you directly face each other the whole time, or a movie theater).

Good dates include checking out touristy stuff (even in your home city), windowshopping, museums, rollerskating or iceskating, taking a walk through a cool area, having her tag along on errands with you, going to a tasting, or any number of free events throughout your city, to taste.

On dates, make sure to hit up as many different locations as possible: Move around to different locations. A great way to transition:

“Are you hungry?”

If she says no, “That’s okay, you can watch me eat.”

Keep playing,
Sebastian