When you hit a block in the road, what do you look for first - a strategy, or a technique?

A strategy is a way of resolving the underlying situation, a plan for what you’re trying to accomplish.

A technique is a single, specific way of dealing with the situation.

Both have their place - techniques can be good if:

(1) You need more experience in the situation so you can better understand the underlying interaction and communication.

(2) You’re experimenting with different ways of acting that don’t come naturally to you.

(3) You want to resolve a minor but frustrating point, like what to do when she’s very insistent you buy her a drink.

Strategies are good if:

(1) You have a lot of techniques, but they don’t come together cohesively.

(2) You’ve had some success, but want to transition to being “automatic” - doing the right things even in new situations.

(3) You have a major sticking point that you haven’t been able to resolve.

Here’s an example of a tactic:

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10 second tip: When you’re having a new girl over to your place, as soon as you walk inside, take off your shoes and say “Shoes off” -

Many people follow this practice anyway for a variety of reasons, and it’s not uncommon in most places. Having girls take their shoes off means they’ll be more comfortable in your home, they’ll have a precedence of having taken off even that small article of clothing, and will also vibe “I’ll probably be staying a little while”.
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The technique is to have her take her shoes off at the door. The strategy is to make people comfortable at your place and build a good precedence going forwards.

The technique by itself is useful and cool - it’ll help a lot if you say “shoes off” and take yours off every time you enter your place with a girl.

Understanding the strategy will help you find ways you can mix and match tactics to get results.

Example of a tactic, “Statement-Based Screening”:
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Screening is, in short, a good thing. But a lot of times, guys have
a hard time making screening questions Situationally Relevant. They
aren’t able to create the context necessary to screen.

What you can do in place of screening questions is use
statement-based screening. It’s screening in a way that doesn’t ask
her if she meets your standards, but instead puts your standards
out there and offers her the opportunity to show she meets them.
This begins to work once you’ve base compliance and she’s started
to initially get attracted to you.

What you do, quite simply, is put out a statement as to what you
like or don’t like. If the girl likes you, she’ll want to show she
meets that standard.

Example:

Screening question: “Can you cook?”
Screening statement: “I like girls that can cook.”

This also has great application for screening in response to a
story she had, where a question might be very verbose.

For instance, a great thing to screen women on is having female
friends in addition to male friends. Trust me on this one, you
don’t want a girlfriend that can’t get along with other girls.

So if the girl is talking about how she doesn’t like most girls and
doesn’t get along with them, you can drop a screening statement: “I
hear you, girls can be tough. I think it’s really important to have
friends that are guys and girls though.” -> This is almost
guaranteed to get her backpedalling and trying to impress upon and
to you that she has female friends too.
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One tactic there - making statements that solicit her to say she’s that type. Two examples of that tactic.

The strategy is this: You’re establish yourself as a high value guy with standards that women need to work for, and putting your standards forth in a subtle way.

Continuing:
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Now, realize one last cool piece of the puzzle. Girls - especially
very beautiful girls with great social skills - often use
screening-based statements on men. They’ll mention in passing that
they value something or other, and most men will jump to say
they’re that.

Instead, a good answer is to just smile and agree with her, perhaps
saying the word, “Cool.”

Examples:

Girl: “I really think what car a guy drives says a lot about him.”
You: “Cool.”

Girl: “I expect my boyfriends to take me out to really nice places.”
You: “Cool.”

It dismisses the screen from her without being combative. You
smile, and say something like, “Cool.” Very high value stuff.
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The tactic: When given a screening statement by a woman, recognize it, smile, and dismiss it.

The strategy: Don’t compete for a woman’s attention or try to fit yourself into the idea she has of what she wants. Differentiate yourself by not competing - which suggests you’re so good you don’t have to prove yourself.

Tactics and strategies both are very valuable. Spend the time getting educated about both and you’ll be on an excellent path.

Sebastian