Refresher:

Attraction is created by having all of,

Value: Something fills a conscious or subconscious need for a person
Attainability: Have a chance to get that value
Compliance: Put work and investment into reaching the value

For getting women,

Value: Traits that are universally valuable, or valuable
specifically to the woman
Attainability: Compatibility, Respect, and Legitimacy
Compliance: Work or effort put into the interaction, to impress or
please you, to handle logistics, or accepting something she doesn’t
necessarily like

Fashion time!

What’s wearing a bunch of gold chains do (assuming they’re not
tacky)?

Think about it -

What’s it do to value?

What’s it do to attainability?

Compliance?

Okay…

Wearing a bunch of gold chains shows you’re indifferent to
arbitrary social pressure, confident, and bold. At the same time,
it shows a nonchalance and playerish attitude.

So for most women, a bunch of gold chains would be:

+V
-A

It would make you more valuable, but make the woman wonder if
you’re the real deal.

WAYS TO GET +VALUE FROM YOUR CLOTHING WITHOUT -ATTAINABILITY:

Coordination
Good Fit
Functional Accessories

Coordination: Do your items match? The easiest to match are your
belt, shoes, and watch. Matching those three will make you look
like you know what you’re doing aesthetically, and make you look
sharper.

Good Fit: Regardless of your body type, you want to wear your
clothes *tight* - if you’re a skinnier guy, you’ll “swim” in excess
material. This can be especially tough for my American gentlemen,
since American clothes are cut large around the middle. Vincent - a
relatively skinny guy - recommends H&M on the low end and Hugo Boss
on the high end for a good fit if you’re on the skinny side. If
you’re a bit heavier like me, excess material makes you look f-a-t.
Go tight, even though it’s counterintuitive, and it’ll actually
thin you out and make you look stronger. For what it’s worth, I’m
around 6′0 and 165 lbs and I wear x-smalls sometimes in American
sizes. Actually, don’t think “tight” - think “sleek”. Then kill the
excess material.

Functional Accessories: You get +V from wearing cool accessories
that set you apart. The thing is, if you wear immense amounts of
rings, bracelets, and necklaces, it can make you seem unattainable
to women. She’ll ask, “Could a girl like me get a guy like him?”
and not be sure of the answer. If she reckons, “No, he’s out of my
league” then - whirr, you’re done.

But you can get all the bonus to value without losing any
attainability points by sharpening way up in what we call the
“functional accessories” - these are the items that people are
expected to wear. These are what you want to snazz up. Look for
especially cool socks, with perhaps an argyle pattern or in baby
blue. Belt, watch, and scarves are also functional accessories.
Winter hats and gloves, too. Points for matching scarves and hats
if you can.

WAYS TO MAKE YOU MORE INTRIGUING AND POTENTIALLY ATTAINABLE TO MORE
WOMEN:

Color
Contrast

Color: If all of your wardrobe are “guy colors” - black, blue,
grey, and brown - start looking for a wider range of colors. Many
men aren’t aware that purple is an extremely masculine color - it’s
represented nobility in the West for centuries now. Most guys look
very good in a light blue as well. If you go a little softer on the
colors, it’ll make you stand out as well as seem more friendly and
approachable.

Contrast: Contrast is excellent because if opens up doors for you.
I strongly recommend really “manly men” types that are into contact
sports, pushing iron, and raising some hell create a contrast by
softening the look up. No more than three years ago, my casual
wardrobe was all construction boots, jeans, sneakers, and jerseys.
The thing is - the kind of women that like manly men will still
like you damn well if you’re wearing a nice wool or silk scarf. On
the flipside, guys that are sensitive and gentle can often do very
well when wearing a sharp power suit or hardening their look up
with a leather jacket. Women that are naturally in tune with your
personality type will still dig you after just a couple moments of
interaction, and women that are attracted to the opposite will
become intrigued and it becomes easier to get in and get a window
of opportunity. There’s something to be said for repping one solid
theme throughout every single thing you do, but if you’re looking
for things to play with - pick up some clothes that contrast your
natural personality, just for fun.

One of the newest theApproach Alumni from last weekend’s Los
Angeles program said it really well: “I don’t buy things that match
my style. I buy things that I want to try out and see if I like.”
Makes sense to me - you’re not marrying your clothes, fella! Mix it
up a little, and keep playin’,

Sebastian