If there’s one thing I’m able to do well, it’s get loyalty in my relationships.
It was a hard-won battle, though… if any of y’all know my story, I got into
the game» when my girlfriend whom I loved dearly slept with one of my friends.

It put me into a slump for a while, but eventually I crawled out and started
working on my social skills. And the ride’s been amazing… one of the best
things to ever happen to me.

But even months, maybe years into my development, I was sleeping with girls but
not able to convert them to girlfriends. I was doing something ‘wrong’.

As it turns out, it’s one of the reasons I reached the level I’m at. Of the
first half-dozen, dozen women I slept with after getting into the community,
there’s a few I’d have settled with if they’d have settled with me.

But they didn’t. That nagging problem. Sex but no conversion. No girlfriend. No
loyalty.

Over time, I developed the skills to hold down relationships through trial and
error, and actually came to excel in them. When you start off below average in
something and work hard, you’ve got a lot of potential to get very good if
you’re driven.

Now, the exciting part.

Recently, I’ve been codifying what I do to convert my girls so well. To get
such loyalty. I want something done? I snap my fingers, it’s done.

Open loyal relationships, where I sleep with other women, she knows it, and
most of them don’t sleep with over men. Not to the mention that the girls cook
for me, come over to my place and clean it when I tell them to, take me to
dinners and buy me gifts.

And of course, sex when, how, and how much I want, whenever I want, however
want. That’s just a given.

My paradigm:

Everyone has problems in their life. All people are unhappy about some stuff,
some of the time. Even the most together people around, when you get to know
them well, have plenty of problems.

There’s only two ways to deal with these problems we have. You distract
yourself from them, or you find a solution to them. Either you’re doing
nothing, or doing something.

And everyone likes both distractions and solutions.

The key is, you must work in a general positive direction on your problems.
Control your distractions, or even make them positive ones like exercising or a
creative project on the side.

This isn’t difficult.

But the key to loyalty in relationships is that you must be a solution for the
girl, not a distraction. Or at least perceived as such.

Men try to fix problems in a logical way. You might too.

But often this isn’t the best way to fix a woman’s problems. I’ll refer you to
the readings of Franco Zarathustra on this one, his writings on here are very
comprehensive on how to deal with women and be a positive force on their life
without falling into traditional “guy problems”.

So if you want real loyalty, you must be seen as a solution for the woman. You
don’t have to be actively fixing her problems.

You just need to be a solid bastion in her life, or seen as a potential
solution down the road. If you can make her feel safe or protected, you’re
acting as a solution. If she sees you as a potential marriage partner, she sees
you as a solution. If she is a better person around you, who can express her
hopes and dreams, you’re a solution.

So what was I doing wrong before?

I was acting purely as a distraction. My old style of socializing with women
was all about entertainment in the early stages, and hedonism if it got any
further than that.

I made her forget her problems for a bit.

But I never acknowledged that she had any problems in her life. Or that I did.

It was just a fantasy. If you’re just a distraction to her, she can toss you
for any other distraction. Liquor, entertainment, other men, drugs, whatever.

If you’re a solution, she’ll become extremely loyal. To the point where she’d
give her life to save yours.

Now allow me to give some credit to my good friend Woodhaven. When I was
breaking down my this conception to him a bit back, he and I started talking,
and we flushed out another element of the solution/distraction idea.

Everyone needs distractions in their life to some extent. And the more reliant
on distractions someone is, the more they need to function.

Strong people with a good focus can interact positively with each other to the
gain of both with minimal distraction. The more reliant someone is on
distraction, they made need intoxicants to simply converse with someone on a
basic level.

What this means in terms of gaming:

The more a woman’s life is filled with distractions, the more of a distraction
you’d need to be up front to bed her.

So if you don’t want women of lesser mental and emotional caliber, play a game
based strongly on mutual value, and make an effort not to be an entertainer.
This will automatically screen out most low self-esteem women.

On the other hand, some of the hottest women turn heavily to distraction.
Drugs, drinking, partying, men. If you want a woman like this, early game based
on distraction/entertainment will be effective.

You need to balance the two. I, myself, do what I call two-tiered screening.

When I approach a woman, I like to keep the options of what I am and could be
to her open. I find out if she’s a girl that’s capable of mutual value
escalation (a term for two people benefiting at the same time, and neither
losing) and if she’s a quality girl.

If she is, I won’t entertain. I’ll relax, talk with her, and keep it light and
fun. When the moment is right, I’ll bed her, then I’ll hold her close and tell
me everything she holds close to her.

I’ll rock her back and forth and let her cry in my arms. Even if I don’t do
anything specifically to fix her problems, she will feel my strength and feel
safe and grounded.

That’s best-case for me.

On the other hand, if she fails the first round of screening, but I’d still
like to bed her for some reason I’ll go to playing a game based on distraction
and entertainment. I’ll focus on having a high impact, charged encounter, with
lots of outrageous stuff.

This approach is about being the best distraction available to a woman. Being
more fun than drinking and drugs, and more of a good time than any of the other
guys around.

If your goal is to sleep with as many women as possible, becoming the best
distraction from their lives will help in your promiscuity.

If your goal is to cultivate loyalty and solid relationships, then becoming a
solution by self-improvement and game based on being a leader and mutual value
is the answer.

If your goal is to sleep with any particular woman, or have a very high
conversion rate, then you need to become good at assessing the balance of
distraction and solution the specific woman in front of you has.

There are masters of all three of these arts. And they are all useful,
wonderful things to learn.

If you want to the learn the game» that’ll help you attract beautiful women,
especially those in high-distraction areas like nightclubs, I recommend the
writings of Mystery and Tyler. They have some powerful things to this end,
especially to help stand out against your environment and competition.

If you want loyalty in the end, you’ll need to be able to transition your role
in her life from distraction to solution. To that end, I suggest reading Player
Supreme. He has some excellent writings on this, and blends spirituality and
practicality well.

If you want the highest of conversion rates, read about men who subtly
demonstrate that they can be a solution through light, subtle and playful
distractions. Men like Razorjack, Woodhaven, and Zan excel at this - It’s a
style where your distractions themselves communicate that you could be a
solution, and while difficult to grasp at first, is very rewarding.

These styles aren’t mutually exclusive: They simply take a while to learn, but
the effort is well-worth it. If you can master all three, you can get literally
anything you want from women anywhere in the world by snapping your fingers.